Human Qualities · Uncategorized

TO BE OR NOT TO BE…GOOD?

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“I want to be a good person.”

“I want to help the poor and needy.”

“I want to make a difference in the world.”

What is common to these phrases is “I’’ and “want” and the only needy person could be oneself.

Very often our deep yearning to help others or be a “good” human being stems from our ego’s desire to be recognised and rewarded. Like a hungry baby, the human ego demands attention. One way it does so is by making us want to be useful. This utilitarian nature leads to praise from others or a sense of self-enhancement and prompts us to do further good deeds. The cycle continues.

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Literacy · Uncategorized

How to Develop a Healthy Reading Habit

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March. The third month of the year, my birthday month, and the month to commemorate my most treasured activity – reading! 1 March saw us observing World Book Day.

World Book Day is one of my favourite days. Not only is it a day to celebrate what I love but it is also a day I reminisce a wonderful childhood spent curled up with a book in hand. While there are adults who discover reading in later years, after stumbling upon a genre they enjoy, the majority of bookworms have been reading since they were very young. A love for reading most often begins early. Just like a lot of other matters in childhood, reading must be encouraged gently and lovingly. I know this is easier said than done, especially with struggling readers.

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The Road Less Travelled · Uncategorized · Wellbeing

The Road Less Travelled: Love (Part 2 of 4)

411lCr7XvpL._SX309_BO1,204,203,200_“Life is difficult.” Thus begins the popular book ‘The Road Less Travelled’ by M. Scott Peck (1936-2005), an American psychiatrist. First published in 1978, the book’s simple language lends to easy understanding. Peck draws considerably from his daily clinical practice as evidenced by the innumerable examples sprinkled across the book. In a four part series I briefly explain the tools Peck writes about to achieve mental and spiritual growth; at the outset he mentions he does not distinguish the two. The four tools are discipline, love, growth-religion and grace.

While discipline is the first step to achieving a full life what is the motive or the energy for discipline? Love, says Scott Peck. Peck defines love as, “The will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.” He clarifies self love and love of others go hand-in-hand and are ultimately indistinguishable. Love is not just a desire but a combination of action and intention. Peck dedicates a major part of his book to love and the length of this post reflects that.  Continue reading “The Road Less Travelled: Love (Part 2 of 4)”

Behaviour · Uncategorized · Workshops

Workshop on Behaviour Management

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I returned to Learning Arc on 7 February 2016 for yet another workshop for parents and teachers. It was encouraging to see a packed room and familiar faces from the ADHD workshop in December. This time we tackled Behaviour Management in children with learning difficulties. A lively discussion ensured everybody’s attention. While there were a few sceptics of Behaviour Therapy most agreed on its benefits in children with additional learning needs.  Continue reading “Workshop on Behaviour Management”

The Road Less Travelled · Uncategorized

The Road Less Travelled: Discipline (Part 1 of 4)

411lCr7XvpL._SX309_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg“Life is difficult.” Thus begins the popular book ‘The Road Less Travelled’ by M. Scott Peck (1936-2005), an American psychiatrist. First published in 1978, the book’s simple language lends to easy understanding. Peck draws considerably from his daily clinical practice as evidenced by the innumerable examples sprinkled across the book. In a four part series I briefly explain the tools Peck writes about to achieve mental and spiritual growth; at the outset he mentions he does not distinguish the two. The four tools are discipline, love, growth-religion and grace.

A vital aspect of rising above the rigors of life is knowing, understanding and accepting that life is difficult. Peck states life is a series of problems and the sooner we realise this, the better. He offers four tools to deal with life’s issues. This post highlights the role of the first tool, discipline.  Continue reading “The Road Less Travelled: Discipline (Part 1 of 4)”

Behaviour · Social Skills · Uncategorized

Bobo Dolls and Learning

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In 1961, against the backdrop of the prevalent Behaviourism perspective in Psychology, Albert Bandura conducted his famous Bobo doll experiments at Stanford University. The principles of Bandura’s Social Learning Theory hold true even over half a century later.  Continue reading “Bobo Dolls and Learning”