Human Qualities · Uncategorized

TO BE OR NOT TO BE…GOOD?

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“I want to be a good person.”

“I want to help the poor and needy.”

“I want to make a difference in the world.”

What is common to these phrases is “I’’ and “want” and the only needy person could be oneself.

Very often our deep yearning to help others or be a “good” human being stems from our ego’s desire to be recognised and rewarded. Like a hungry baby, the human ego demands attention. One way it does so is by making us want to be useful. This utilitarian nature leads to praise from others or a sense of self-enhancement and prompts us to do further good deeds. The cycle continues.

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Human Qualities · Social Skills · Uncategorized

We are Social Beings!

“How can we focus on teaching our child communication and social skills when she does not even know how to read and write properly?” is a common question asked by parents. While it is important to address a child’s academic difficulties, it is equally, if not more, important to deal with children’s difficulties in social situations. Social skills are required for successful interpersonal relationships and they can have a huge impact on a child’s overall self-esteem. Children with academic difficulties are often plagued by feelings of inadequacy. This, in turn, may make them diffident about social interactions. A lack of self confidence often leads to faulty interactions with peers, ending in rejection. Continue reading “We are Social Beings!”

Human Qualities · Uncategorized

Patience

“Have a little patience…,” crooned the singer through the car radio as I navigated Bangalore’s traffic.  While I may not have patience waiting in a traffic jam, my job requires heaps of it.  In fact, when I inform people of my profession upon meeting them for the first time, I most often receive the response, “Oh you must be a patient person!”  Working as a special educator with children who have learning difficulties, I have come to realise patience is a quality that changes and grows with time.  Patience is not just about staying calm when a child repeatedly makes the same mistake or takes time to learn a skill.  So what is this special type of patience that I am talking about? Continue reading “Patience”